I think the number one question I get when people find out that I homeschool is: "how do you do it? Isn't it hard to not have time to yourself?" Honestly my answer is no. I just don't need 6+ hrs per day for myself. I enjoy my children's company. They are my job...my vocation.
Now, that doesn't mean I don't need a break ever!
Trust me, I do.
And the fact of the matter is, I get plenty of breaks. I have my book club, my homeschool group meetings, occasional coffees with friends...
I know that this is not the same for everyone. Some parents are better ones when they are away from their children. I by no means cast any judgment on others and their choices.
For me, I just thrive when I have my babies close.
Another comment I hear is, "oh you must be so patient!" This is another fallacy. I don't have more or less patience than the average parent. In fact I think homeschooling has taught me about being patient. I have to bite my tongue numerous times during the day...while my daughter struggles to read the word "went" for the millionth time...or my son forgets where his poetry book is...or when my youngest throws a tantrum because he has to erase his work cause he didn't leave spaces between his words.
It's how I react that determines the mood of the situation.
I really love the following quote, it speaks such truth:
I really try hard to keep a cheerful disposition while working with my kids even when inside my stomach is turning. I want them to know that they are my priority during our time together. I attempt to put my phone away and not do housework. This doesn't always happen but it is my goal each and every day.
My hope is that this chosen occupation of homeschooling only enhances the lives of my children; and doesn't cause them to need therapy later on in life. Lol
As a homeschooling mom, I'm torn between two worlds. That of a teacher to my children and the other of a wife/mom to my family.
On the days when all the homeschooling gets done and all the subjects are ticked off, my laundry is piled up to the ceiling and the dishwasher still needs to be emptied.
On the flip side, on days like today when the laundry is caught up...the grocery shopping is done, supper is prepped and my house is somewhat clean, no schoolwork was done at all.
There's so much on my to-do list, that it is often overwhelming and I just feel like climbing back in bed.
But trudge forward I must.
I need to keep trying to find the balance, as I'm sure many parents do, not just homeschoolers.
Are we trying to juggle too much, where inevitably one (or more) ball(s) will fall?
Will my children at the end of the day, really care that our kitchen floor was mopped or will it matter more that mommy didn't come see the puzzle they put together because she was too busy cleaning out the bathtub?
Such a balancing act.
Hopefully tomorrow, I'll get a little bit of this and a little bit of that taken care of and by the time bedtime rolls around, I will have felt like my day was productive somewhat.
Since I was a little girl, I have loved books. My favourite thing was coming home on a Sunday night from my dad's (my parents are divorced) and seeing a new book lying on my bed. Some of my favourites were:
I try to expose my children to books all the time...classics, non-fiction, poetry etc...even some silly ones that are strictly for entertainment purposes.
I have a veracious reader, a reluctant reader and an emergent reader. My new goal is to read aloud to the kids everyday, regardless of their reading level. I think there is something to be said for listening to someone else read and picturing it in your imagination. It's particularly important to continue to read to older children. They receive plenty of benefits as one article points out.
Some of my favourite books for different age groups are the following:
Ages 5-8 Anything from Robert McCloskey (his illustrations are fantastic) Frog and Toad series Cork and Fuzz series Amelia Bedelia Sarah, Plain and Tall Little House on the Praire series Dr. Seuss books Pippi Longstocking Peter Rabbit Winnie the Pooh The Railway Children Curious George Ezra Jack Keats books
Ages 9-11 Charlotte`s Web Babe the Gallant Pig Mrs. Frisby and e Rats of NIMH The Secret Garden The Twenty-one Balloons The Wizard of Oz My Side of the Mountain Owls in the Family Anything from Roald Dahl Holes Where the Wild Fern Grows
Well I did it! I had THE talk. You know the birds and the bees??? Ya well...I've been putting it off for quite sometime. I didn't know if my son was ready...or shall I say if I was ready.
The night just offered up a time when he and I were alone. Everyone else in bed.
The actual talk was full of giggles and coy eyes. He was flabbergasted by what I had to say. He absolutely had no clue how babies were made. I love his innocence.
Some may think that I waited too long...for me, it was just the right time. He's 11 yrs old and full of wonder. He deserved the truth about God's perfectly designed plan for us to procreate. How we fit together so miraculously...a man and a woman. It truly is a beautiful thing. I sometimes think we tend to forget this. Society and media paints such an ugly and vulgar picture about sex.
It wasn't designed for that purpose. It was made for us to enjoy and create within a loving relationship between a man and a women. I think we need to stress that to our children.
I assured my sweet boy that his daddy and I are always here to discuss anything he has questions about. There's nothing he has to be embarrassed or ashamed to talk to us about.
For now, I think he's still digesting this new discovery. In due time, there will be more questions I'm sure.
This is the book I read to him regarding this subject: